A Parents Responsibility

We believe in you. The team here has incredible faith in the power of a parent, especially when it comes to influencing and instilling values in their kids. We could have built a site offering technology to block your kids from looking at porn. We could have dedicated ourselves to just instructing young people on the dangers of porn or lobbying government bureaucracies. We could have done a ton of different things but we came to the conclusion from our research and findings that parents are the most significant factor in combating porn exposure. Sure all that other stuff is important but not nearly as important as your role in your child’s life. Don’t ever forget that. You’re it. You’re in charge.

Our children are a gift from the Almighty and with this gift comes enormous responsibility. Sadly to say, there has been a scary trend developing in our culture. Mom’s and dad’s have stopped being parents in lieu of being their kids friends. Your kids have enough buddies and pals. They don’t need you to be cool, hip, or part of their posse. They need you to parent them. Lead them. Instruct them. Correct them and point them towards a healthy way of life.

A Parent’s Basic Responsibilities: The Must List

1. You must know what’s going on in your child’s life. Get in there and engage with your children no matter how much they fight it or try to isolate themselves from you. But what about their privacy? In most cases we have found that parents extend too much privacy to their kids. Place a higher value on parenting your kids than your child’s right to privacy.

2. You must understand the basic issues at hand when it comes to pornography and kids’ exposure to it. Keep learning and seeking out resources that will help you grow as a parent. This site is great but it’s not enough. It’s only the first step in the learning process.

3. You must have a basic working knowledge of the technology you are giving to your kids. You must also understand the dangers associated with that technology.

4. You must set boundaries, rules, and clear expectations with your kids. Especially when it comes to the computer, the Internet, and technology. Set rules and expectations and stick with them. Enforce accountability for actions.

5. You must be willing to have tough conversations involving tough issues. Someone is going to talk to your kids about porn. It’s your choice whether or not it’s going to be you or some other person you certainly would not approve of. You see there are pornographers who are more then willing to chat with your children about their product and its “benefits.”

6. You must not give up your authority as a parent. You’re in charge. Don’t be a wimp. Grow a spine and get some courage. And listen, it’s okay if your kid doesn’t like you. You’re meant to lead, not necessarily be liked. But it’s always nice to have both.

7. You must not bury your head in the sand and live in a state of denial. “My precious one would never look at dirty pictures. My child isn’t interested in that type of stuff. He doesn’t know how to work a computer. They are involved in the church youth group so they know better.” These are statements heard from parents officially checked into the La La Land hotel. Denial is a dangerous thing folks. Deal in reality.

8. You must have an ongoing dialogue with your kids about pornography, the Internet, and healthy sexuality.

9. You must use whatever technology is available to you to help protect your family computers. There are some great companies out there offering some wonderful products that will help protect your kids and help you know better what is going on with their computer.